Living with your parents wasn’t so bad when you were a teenager and it was all you ever knew, but moving back in with them after college, as an adult will provide a whole new challenge. To a lot of parents you will always remain their baby. Believe me, I know. I live across the globe and my mom will Skype me just to remind me to brush my teeth before bed. It’s nothing short of completely and utterly mind boggling.
For three years you’ve had your freedom of choice. You went out when you wanted to, came back home when you pleased and rarely had to answer to anyone. That’s exactly as things should be when you’re an adult. Moving back with your parents, you can expect to lose this. Say goodbye to privacy, bid your farewells to your freedom and say hello to millions of questions and concerns. This is living with parents.
Living with them will never be pleasant, but there are a few ways you can make this nightmare a little less hellish and even livable.
Before your mother attempts to burst into your room with no warning and spoon feed you, have a conversation about boundaries. You don’t want to go out and be asked about your whereabouts, who you’re going with or what time you’ll be home. This is a ridiculous question to ask an adult. Demand your privacy. When I moved back in with my parents at twenty five, I didn’t have the boundaries talk for about six months. Till we did, I would just sit there and coddle a growing anger.
Establish That You’re an Adult
Remind your parents that you’re an adult. If you’re anything like me it’ll burst out of you in moments of anger. Alternatively, I recommend you pull them aside and tell them in a very gentle manner. If it doesn’t work, it’s probably best you look for a way out.
Accept Lifestyle Changes
Your parents are aging and from a different generation. Maybe they’re catching up with the times, though if they’re like my parents they’re stuck in the 70’s and 80’s and never moved forward. Explain to them what’s acceptable by modern society and that you just don’t do things their way. Remind them about how old fashioned their parents seemed back in the 1980’s. Hopefully they’ll get it and become more accepting of you.
At the end of the day, maybe you can drill this through their heads. If you do and they get with the program, living with them might not be so bad. If you all fails, it’s probably best that you look for an alternative. Even if its harder it will probably work out for the better in the long run.